Im always think people actually see what their relationship is has potential in the worst moments.
It's easy for both to be happy when we go on holiday together and carefree state, it's easy for us when things going right.
But when things going wrong?
Thats when people shows you incredible amount, not just about who they are, but how they deals with life problems. And how someone deals with life problems tell you so much what you need to know about them and it tells you so much about how is gonna be to live with this person forever.
It's too often someone will be a very difficult person in a relationship and they'll attack us, they'll defensive, get cold, and they'll say:" I'm sorry I'm just having a bad day/ I'm going through a hard time/ I'm just having a lot stress/ I'm just had rough day
When people say this, it becomes acceptable because we want to be a good partner and we love them, we accepted this person is going through stuff and had hard time and we want to be there for them.
That can be dangerous cause people will take it for granted.
The person I want to be in a relationship with is the person can still somehow be a positive influence in my life when things are going wrong. You know when I have too much stress on work or things just didn't go exactly what I've been planned, I come to him while I have those moments, for relieve, for those moments just want to be loving and lay my head on him and feel safety, and of course my partner can count on me to be that way whenever they're struggling with life.
When I'm with you, I don't want to bring all that negative package with me and start taking out on you that's just not fair to you.
Look, I love you and I'm the best teammate you ever have, and I'm in this with you., together.
But when you're in that state, I need you to be more loving, more open mind or not be that too defensive and respect the fact I'm here to help you.
I don't want to bring you more stress or insecurity, I don't want to put more on your plate, I want to be there for you, I just need you to be that way. When you having stress, having problems, I'm here to help and I don't want you take it out on me or being cold and defensive like recently, because that's not fair to me, I'll be the teammate with you, in this with you together, supporting you and so on because I cares about tons of you, I want to be there in every way possible. But I need you to be that way when you are like that, I need you to think the effect you having on me as well because it's my energy too, and I know you love me enough to protect my energy.
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